By Winslow –
For June 2018’s Migraine and Headache Awareness Month, our theme is “You are not alone.” Migraines are one of the most isolating events a person can go through. When the very sound of someone else’s voice makes the pain increase, you are forced to seclude yourself. This is a pain no one can fight but you. Even though no one can take the migraine from you, that doesn’t mean you are alone in this battle.
Migraine sufferer, you are not alone.
When you are lying in your bed, feeling the agonizing throbs course through your head, you are not alone.
When you are fighting back nausea and wincing from every glimmer of light, you are not alone.
When you are forced to cancel your plans, you are not alone.
We know what it’s like to feel hopeless as you lie in the darkness.
We know what it’s like to hate the very vision of the sunshine, due to the pain.
We know what it’s like to fight back the negative thoughts of depression, worthlessness, frustration and anger.
We know what it’s like to have plans destroyed by a migraine.
We know what it’s like to appear and feel unreliable.
We know what it’s like to wonder, “Why me?”
We know what it’s like to envy those who don’t suffer from migraines.
You are not alone in this battle.
In those moments where you feel hopeless, please hold onto the following truths-
– This too shall pass. In moments of sheer agony, it can be hard to appreciate this concept, but nothing in life is permanent. Even the hardest rainfall stops eventually. Yes, you may have chronic migraines, but you have good moments in between the bad ones. Hold on through the bad moments for the good ones. Hold on for the moments that make life worth living.
– You are not unreliable, your health is. You cannot control the fact that you get migraines. This is NOT your fault. Please do not ever feel bad about yourself if you have to cancel plans, miss work or change an obligation. Your health is everything. Your health is the most valuable asset you have. You must protect it at all costs. Never feel guilty for doing what is best for you.
– Self-care is not selfish. You cannot lift anyone else up with broken wings. Proper hydration, nutrition and sleep are essential in the management of migraines. You have to make yourself a priority. This is not selfish, this is essential!
– It is okay not to be okay. Migraines are incredibly difficult to handle. They are a destructive force that attack your health and your heart. They can make you feel bad both physically and emotionally. So, it is okay not to be okay. It is okay to feel sad about missing events because of a migraine. It is okay to have those emotions. It is okay to feel those emotions. The harm only comes when you fixate on them. When you are battling a migraine, you have to hold onto the positive things in your life. You have to switch your mental focus to resting, recovering and being around for your better days. Staying in a mode of depression won’t benefit you. Feel your emotions, then let them go.
Migraine Sufferer, please know that this war against migraines has a militia of understanding, powerful warriors aligned to fight. We are not victims of migraine, we are VICTORS. Migraines are tough, but I assure you that you are tougher.
Keep fighting. ❤
“When you’ve been through hell, leave sparks of fire wherever you go.” – Winslow E. Dixon.